It is now perfectly clear to me that person #1 is the most damaged individual I have ever met. I have no problem getting this person out of my life. How I ever let him in is beyond me. How did I not know or overlook that this person is in sore need of professional help? I actually told him that once years ago - that is probably when he started to lose interest in me. It is the way he operates. Anyone who tries to help him by pointing out a behavior that needs correcting gets shunned, called names and otherwise cut off. I suppose this is the best thing he has ever done for me - it allowed me to see him clearly for the first time. Had I seen it the day we met, he never would have been allowed to be such a big part of my life. Hindsight is always 20/20, but I am confident that I can now make the right choices and again surround myself with people who are unbroken. And now that that is done, I am feeling a bit more unbroken myself :)